I have recently befriended some wicked awesome guys that I will lovingly refer to as the 1306 guys.
well. My roommate Allie and I usually hang out with them a few times a week and.. yea..
they have this habit of making lots of ethnic, cultural, religious jokes (keep in mind, JOKES)..
and I don't normally mind, because I know they don't mean anything by it.. and I just usually don't make those jokes as a matter of not offending another. Unless it be in a very satirical manner.
anyway..
I have been in question, on if one of them was racist. Just do to the excessive number of jokes made.. though I still choose to believe he is not.
and I was questioning my roommate and she was like "i don't know, ask him. does it bother you?" And quite frankly, yes it does, and I told her that "I am not one to shove my opinions down others throats (though I will voice them), but there are some things that everyone should accept" that I think are common sense, that society seems to over look. something that should be accepted by all... example being racial differences. Hell I don't even think of people as a separate race, it's the human race.. a black pug and a tan pug are still PUGS correct? still DOGS correct? Genetically speaking, there are fewer differences between "races" than there are between a male and female. Even then, the difference is negligible.
She is not offended by the sense of racism given off by our friends (who really are great guys, don't get me wrong), yet if one of them were to make a joke against atheism or homosexuality, she would get gravely offended.
Now tell me.... How is that any different than someone disliking someone based off of skin pigmentation? Sexual preference... Religious preference..
She claims open-mindedness, but is so close-minded towards other things.
Now i did not make that point I only said what I quoted.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
And the thoughts just spill..
They fall from their neat stacks within my mind, through my fingers and onto the page. No particular order, in fact.. it's usually chaotic. I can't help it, I've always lacked organization skills..
but here I go again..
Sex. Yes... I said it. Rather..I typed it. SEX.
Seems to be a major topic in today's society, no? The media uses it to gather attention, mass majority of our 18 and under use it as a manner of recreational fun (claiming it as love rather than lust), it's for sale by human trafficers, it's all over the internet to entertain the minds of all those searching for only the pleasures of an illusion...no strings attached.
Am I saying sex is bad? No! Of course not. All I'm saying is it's lost it's meaning. It's being over exploited.
What happened to sharing yourself with one person. When did sex turn into JUST fun and games? It's had a negative affect on society (rape, porn addiction, human trafficking, self-esteem destruction, increased abortion..etc) and still we continue to abuse it. This is not to say that sex cannot be fun, I do not mean to knock what happens intimately, rather the value of the act itself.
The human body is a temple of love. One that is sacred and shouldn't be tossed around like a toy. It is not right to objectify people...to demean their value to solely something to sleep with.
We had a speaker come to Morehead and he talked about violence and sexual assault but one thing he said (quoted from another) that caught my attention was this:
"
Treating an object like a person is true to. Like porn or even a "harmless" poster (i.e. woman in a bikini), it creates falsehoods of something real. It gives you expectations you may never reach. You also lack that feeling of commitment. I find it very off-putting to enter a guy or girls room and see half naked men or women scattered amongst the walls. I understand to an extent the point of such...but I feel it destroys all that is beautiful about our bodies and our minds. I've heard that as an excuse, they find the person beautiful... well then aren't they just as beautiful clothed? You have simply reduced this person to eye candy. They have no value other than to further your own self gratification. On the other hand, such people pose for said posters and items in knowing that they are being promoted simply for their attraction rather than something of greater value.
Treating a person as a person is justice; aren't we all people? Shouldn't we all equally get the same amount of respect as you give any other person?
and the last one is self explanatory and can be furthered with the idea of putting one before yourself is love.
anyways..
I had more to say but I just spent a lot on that subject and can't think of my other topics I wanted to cover! ugh.. I will continue this later I promise.. i usually don't but I really had more I wanted to say on other topics...
but here I go again..
Sex. Yes... I said it. Rather..I typed it. SEX.
Seems to be a major topic in today's society, no? The media uses it to gather attention, mass majority of our 18 and under use it as a manner of recreational fun (claiming it as love rather than lust), it's for sale by human trafficers, it's all over the internet to entertain the minds of all those searching for only the pleasures of an illusion...no strings attached.
Am I saying sex is bad? No! Of course not. All I'm saying is it's lost it's meaning. It's being over exploited.
What happened to sharing yourself with one person. When did sex turn into JUST fun and games? It's had a negative affect on society (rape, porn addiction, human trafficking, self-esteem destruction, increased abortion..etc) and still we continue to abuse it. This is not to say that sex cannot be fun, I do not mean to knock what happens intimately, rather the value of the act itself.
The human body is a temple of love. One that is sacred and shouldn't be tossed around like a toy. It is not right to objectify people...to demean their value to solely something to sleep with.
We had a speaker come to Morehead and he talked about violence and sexual assault but one thing he said (quoted from another) that caught my attention was this:
"
- To treat a person as if they're an object is violence.
- To treat a object as a person is illusion.
- To treat a person as a person is justice.
- To treat a person as you would your-self is love."
Treating an object like a person is true to. Like porn or even a "harmless" poster (i.e. woman in a bikini), it creates falsehoods of something real. It gives you expectations you may never reach. You also lack that feeling of commitment. I find it very off-putting to enter a guy or girls room and see half naked men or women scattered amongst the walls. I understand to an extent the point of such...but I feel it destroys all that is beautiful about our bodies and our minds. I've heard that as an excuse, they find the person beautiful... well then aren't they just as beautiful clothed? You have simply reduced this person to eye candy. They have no value other than to further your own self gratification. On the other hand, such people pose for said posters and items in knowing that they are being promoted simply for their attraction rather than something of greater value.
Treating a person as a person is justice; aren't we all people? Shouldn't we all equally get the same amount of respect as you give any other person?
and the last one is self explanatory and can be furthered with the idea of putting one before yourself is love.
anyways..
I had more to say but I just spent a lot on that subject and can't think of my other topics I wanted to cover! ugh.. I will continue this later I promise.. i usually don't but I really had more I wanted to say on other topics...
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Would you ever read the end of a book first?
Apparently my mother would, and that bugs me. Knowing what will happen ruins the element of surprise. It's not the same as reading a book then watching the movie about the book because there are almost always differences and it's just bringing the book alive. This came up because mom read a blog on this tv episode and knew everything that was gonna happen and I said its like reading the end of a book first and she said she'd do that...It's like having a friend quote a movie word for word and tell u every single part... then you going and watching it.. kinda lol
This brings me to the question that I've been asked many times.."If it were possible, would you like to know when/how you're going to die?"
I say no. Can you imagine, knowing that you're gonna die by idk.. a car wreck.. then, knowing that, you'd try to avoid it. But of course, your avoidance would most likely be what leads to your demise. I know many people who would say yes, but why? So they can avoid it? You can't avoid death, it's inevitable. Maybe they just want to know how long they've got? Idk, the only benefit from that would be maybe some would finally live their life the way they should, but really you shouldn't have to be motivated just to force you to run your life in a good manner. hmm..
anyways lol..
I've been thinking a lot about life recently (as you can tell since this is my second or third blog on it in the past month). It's been triggered through the recent deaths of those around me. It urges me to take a good look at myself and know if I am who I want to be, If I'm doing what I should, and If I'll be that person that has affected many, that my death will leave an impact on someone. I have a lot to work on, but I overall am satisfied with how I lead my life.
to be cont..
This brings me to the question that I've been asked many times.."If it were possible, would you like to know when/how you're going to die?"
I say no. Can you imagine, knowing that you're gonna die by idk.. a car wreck.. then, knowing that, you'd try to avoid it. But of course, your avoidance would most likely be what leads to your demise. I know many people who would say yes, but why? So they can avoid it? You can't avoid death, it's inevitable. Maybe they just want to know how long they've got? Idk, the only benefit from that would be maybe some would finally live their life the way they should, but really you shouldn't have to be motivated just to force you to run your life in a good manner. hmm..
anyways lol..
I've been thinking a lot about life recently (as you can tell since this is my second or third blog on it in the past month). It's been triggered through the recent deaths of those around me. It urges me to take a good look at myself and know if I am who I want to be, If I'm doing what I should, and If I'll be that person that has affected many, that my death will leave an impact on someone. I have a lot to work on, but I overall am satisfied with how I lead my life.
to be cont..
Monday, June 30, 2008
She knows shes more than just a little misunderstood..
I've been on a "Counting Crows Kick" for the past week, not sure why, I downloaded a bunch of their stuff and I keep listening to em. I suppose this kick has been pushed into place because of 94.9 playing "Round here" a lot lately.
That has nothing to do with this blog but whatever. Hm smells like charcoal outside :) and the sky looks wicked awesome right now, despite the low number of stars visible.. it looks so neat all dark and stuff lol. If i could I'd sleep outside, but it rained on our furniture outside :(...
okay.. on to my point of the bloggage..
I just finished watching "The Mist" (Based off of Stephen King Novel). Interesting, though most of his works are. Anyway, the end was rather tragic, here's a little break down of the plot, and whats causing me to write the blog:
Huge storm, tree busts window in an artists house. After storm they notice a mist on the lake... but ignore it. He tells his wife he'll go to store and get supplies to fix window, does with his son and neighbor. While shopping, mist spreads. Lock down in store. Monsters in the mist. Crazy 'jim jones--im a prophet' lady convinces people its god's wrath and many become deranged. At one point they kill a man who they blamed for the whole wrath god; they stabbed him and fed him to the monsters, while he was still alive. 9 people try to escape (including artist and son) but the crazy lady has people against them...she gets killed and 8 of the nine get out. once out they retreat to vehicle--except in process 3 get killed.. Artist realizes his wife is dead, they try to escape the mist. Ends up they run outta gas.. and they know they're gonna die. Artist has gun, 4 bullets, five people in car. He kills all including his son (who made him promise He'd never let the monsters get him). Then all he wants to do is die. But the mist clears minutes after the incident. Tragic.
Yea, it's much better than I described. though I so thought in the beginning (because i knew there'd be monsters) I thought they'd come from his paintings..
Anyway, it got me thinking of how someone could kill someone. How could they kill that innocent man, or even live knowing that you convinced people an innocent man needed to die a slow painful death???
I can't even fathom that kind of hate or insanity. I've had friends ask if I've ever thought of killing someone, and when I said no, they found it abnormal? I don't think it's abnormal that I have no urge to know what that's like. There is no reason to kill. There are always better ways around things. Like war. War is dumb. Don't get me wrong, I greatly respect the courage of our soldiers who are out there putting their lives out on the line for our freedom and for the "good of the nation", but isn't there a better way? Is shooting someone really helping? I know that at this point, maybe we're in too deep. We as a species have accepted war. I just think that there should be a better way.
I mean, have you ever really thought about it? Like.. when someone dies... they're gone. I mean I believe in heaven, hell and all that stuff. But I'm just saying, they aren't here like physically no matter what you believe. You just ended that person's life..
what reason is good enough to kill..?
hm? tell me one, I'd like to know.. unless it's self-defense. I understand that.
All these thoughts pose the argument for capital punishment too. hm.
to be cont.
That has nothing to do with this blog but whatever. Hm smells like charcoal outside :) and the sky looks wicked awesome right now, despite the low number of stars visible.. it looks so neat all dark and stuff lol. If i could I'd sleep outside, but it rained on our furniture outside :(...
okay.. on to my point of the bloggage..
I just finished watching "The Mist" (Based off of Stephen King Novel). Interesting, though most of his works are. Anyway, the end was rather tragic, here's a little break down of the plot, and whats causing me to write the blog:
Huge storm, tree busts window in an artists house. After storm they notice a mist on the lake... but ignore it. He tells his wife he'll go to store and get supplies to fix window, does with his son and neighbor. While shopping, mist spreads. Lock down in store. Monsters in the mist. Crazy 'jim jones--im a prophet' lady convinces people its god's wrath and many become deranged. At one point they kill a man who they blamed for the whole wrath god; they stabbed him and fed him to the monsters, while he was still alive. 9 people try to escape (including artist and son) but the crazy lady has people against them...she gets killed and 8 of the nine get out. once out they retreat to vehicle--except in process 3 get killed.. Artist realizes his wife is dead, they try to escape the mist. Ends up they run outta gas.. and they know they're gonna die. Artist has gun, 4 bullets, five people in car. He kills all including his son (who made him promise He'd never let the monsters get him). Then all he wants to do is die. But the mist clears minutes after the incident. Tragic.
Yea, it's much better than I described. though I so thought in the beginning (because i knew there'd be monsters) I thought they'd come from his paintings..
Anyway, it got me thinking of how someone could kill someone. How could they kill that innocent man, or even live knowing that you convinced people an innocent man needed to die a slow painful death???
I can't even fathom that kind of hate or insanity. I've had friends ask if I've ever thought of killing someone, and when I said no, they found it abnormal? I don't think it's abnormal that I have no urge to know what that's like. There is no reason to kill. There are always better ways around things. Like war. War is dumb. Don't get me wrong, I greatly respect the courage of our soldiers who are out there putting their lives out on the line for our freedom and for the "good of the nation", but isn't there a better way? Is shooting someone really helping? I know that at this point, maybe we're in too deep. We as a species have accepted war. I just think that there should be a better way.
I mean, have you ever really thought about it? Like.. when someone dies... they're gone. I mean I believe in heaven, hell and all that stuff. But I'm just saying, they aren't here like physically no matter what you believe. You just ended that person's life..
what reason is good enough to kill..?
hm? tell me one, I'd like to know.. unless it's self-defense. I understand that.
All these thoughts pose the argument for capital punishment too. hm.
to be cont.
Saturday, April 19, 2008
all my blogs
seem to be a rant. I apologize, but there is so much for me to say.
With that said..here I go again.
Fictitious characters trudging through our vast world, dragging their feet, fabricating lies with every step. Fictitious characters who get caught up in multiple falsehood's that they create in order to please everyone in their lives so that they can soak up as much attention as possible.
Sadly, that is what much of our society has been molded into. I have lost one of my best friend's to the darkness of a material, attention-based world.
I know too many people who care more about how they appear to people, than who they actually are. When they're around their "goody-goody" friends, they act as if they could do no wrong. They befriend "the wrong crowd" and act as though they've lived on the street for years. They lose themselves in the lies and convince themselves that everything they lied about is true. A jack of all the wrong trades.
It makes me sad to see so many people fall to this fate.
to be cont...
With that said..here I go again.
Fictitious characters trudging through our vast world, dragging their feet, fabricating lies with every step. Fictitious characters who get caught up in multiple falsehood's that they create in order to please everyone in their lives so that they can soak up as much attention as possible.
Sadly, that is what much of our society has been molded into. I have lost one of my best friend's to the darkness of a material, attention-based world.
I know too many people who care more about how they appear to people, than who they actually are. When they're around their "goody-goody" friends, they act as if they could do no wrong. They befriend "the wrong crowd" and act as though they've lived on the street for years. They lose themselves in the lies and convince themselves that everything they lied about is true. A jack of all the wrong trades.
It makes me sad to see so many people fall to this fate.
to be cont...
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
okay
Im about to get my senior pics taken.
and its like.. i am second guessing my outfits lol... i hate that. i always do this.
anyway, today is gonna be funnnnnnnn. or so I hope. I get to go to game night at the youth group! an my BFF fo sho is hopefully coming, as well as jake --now thats a whole other topic that i dont even wanna get into. so it'll either rock or its gonna go over horribly.. but since it's the youth group...it should rock lol.
woot!
and its like.. i am second guessing my outfits lol... i hate that. i always do this.
anyway, today is gonna be funnnnnnnn. or so I hope. I get to go to game night at the youth group! an my BFF fo sho is hopefully coming, as well as jake --now thats a whole other topic that i dont even wanna get into. so it'll either rock or its gonna go over horribly.. but since it's the youth group...it should rock lol.
woot!
Sunday, February 17, 2008
First blog of the new year...(longest blog EVER)
I have a song attached to this blog :D just cuz i like it and its one of the very few acoustic songs that Breaking Benjamin has.
Anyway, I'm probably going to sound a bit like a broken record here because I'm sure I've blogged something similar to this before but...I'm going to blog it again gosh dang-it!
In this blog:
1. Arguing
2. Why do people get upset so easily?
3. "Til death do us part" in explanation to the Mormons that came to my house.
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ARGUING
On a "short" note, my brother and his girlfriend woke me up with their arguing this morning. The whole fight was over name calling and it was so petty but my brother made an excellent point. He apparently said something that made her mad and she called him a dick and he apologized but she didn't and it escalated. My brother made this point (to understand it better you'd need to know all that happened but i don't want to disperse his whole argument)... He has the horrible tendency to cuss a lot, and he said "if you ask anyone who knows me if i have a 'potty mouth' they will say yes. But if I asked anyone if you had a 'potty mouth' then not a single person would say yes, in fact they'd all find it shocking, so when you called me a name, it really hurt. (she still wasn't getting it) You know why? Because you calling someone a bad name is like Jesus calling someone a Mother F____er". I thought that was like funny, but it's completely true.. and after that the argument basically was over. Although, this does not excuse any name calling on my brother's behalf--whether he curses a lot or not.
My friend Jeremy always has little debates with me but they are always over something really ridiculous and for the most part its just a joking argument and is rather fun. Over the weekend, Sunday to be precise, He told me he was thinking about the Chaos Theory. In other words, the Butterfly Effect (a butterfly in Brazil flaps it's wings and causes a tornado in Texas). He just randomly brought it up and asked if I believed in it, and I said I didn't because I don't think that a butterfly simply flapping it's wings would create such a difference in air pressure that it could cause a tornado. That set him off. We began arguing over a 4 hour span. I could really give a hoot. I had no inclination to talk about let alone argue about the Chaos Theory. He began challenging me on something I knew little about, and was not prepared to argue for. Me stating that I am unsure on my stance on the theory does not imply that I do not agree with aspects of the theory, I understand that nature has many chaotic events. However, I have never researched the mathematical basis behind this theory, therefore I would rather inform myself before ever caring to argue. For all I know, I may actually agree with the theory--unfortunately, I don't know enough on the topic. He kept giving examples that were in little relevance to the theory as well. For example he said "I quit my last job because my paycheck had been messed up, later I found out that the check number was wrong..what are the chances of that...and now I work here, had that not happened I would've never been here" I told him, well obviously had that not happened you wouldn't be here, life is a bunch of untold stories, it's obvious logic that if you do one thing then something will happen and if you were to do something different instead then there would potentially be a different outcome. I believe that his example was only partial to the theory and i told him that and he got mad and would not accept the fact that I do not completely agree with a theory. In my opinion, i think that it's okay to debate but if one person does not have any motivation or support for the argument then why should you force your ideals on them? I asked him to stop THREE times because i was getting upset (he wouldn't consider my opinion or lack there of....plus arguing makes me want to cry). He didn't stop until I refused to respond.
Can you tell me if you think he went to far? In argument, he referred to me as a B word and stated all I do is shoot him down... because I was not willing to argue about something I know little about. I asked him that day the following day why he wouldn't stop and he said because he likes questioning the theory and his life. He was not questioning and I told him that, he was trying to persuade me. His response was "Don't you want to know why you are here" to which "I already know why I'm here.." "That's bull crap."
Nice huh? FUN DAY AT WORK.
Why Do People Get Upset So Easily?
Picture this:
A woman with a cart, filled with snacks & a birthday cake (as well as other stuff). She walks to my register and begins to unload her stuff, rather happily.
Me: Hello!
Woman: Hi :D
Me: How are you? Do you Have a Remke Card?
Woman: Not with me but you can look it up. Oh and do you sell Vodka here?
Me: No, but they do across the street. (woman tells me her info and I look up her card)
*end of order*
Me: your total is 94.78
Woman: I'm going to write this for $10 over.
Me: Um... Ma'am do you have your Remke card visibly with you, otherwise you can't.
Woman: Even with ID?
Me: No it's our policy. It's just for the customer's protection.
Woman: Well that's absolute bull Sh*t. --talks to manager--comes back-- you might as well delete me from your system, I'll never be back. If it wasn't my daughter's birthday then I'd just leave all of this here and you could put it all back. --talks to manager and writes name and number on paper--
Me: Have a good night.
Woman: *storms off*
Seriously? Why get so mad? There's an ATM outside... she also was going to go buy vodka, so she'd have the opportunity to get money back there if they allow it. It's not my fault. And guess what? She came through my line again today, haha.
Another incident --worse-- happen to my friend while she was working. The up coming week had a sale for coke 12pks 3 for 9 dollars, but this week there was no sale on coke at all. A man comes through her line with three coke 12pks. She rings him up an says "Your total is $15.10" The man gets slightly annoyed an says "Aren't those supposed to be nine dollars?? She replies "no they aren't on sale....." Then the man becomes enraged and slams the coke down and gets in the cashier's face and says "THIS IS RIDICULOUS! IT'S F***ING STUPID! YOU CAN TAKE YOUR F***ING COKE AND SHOVE IT UP YOUR F***ING @$! SCREW YOU!" then proceeds to march out of store.
It's not our fault that the coke wasn't on sale and that he read the wrong ad...
I think it's pathetic to get so annoyed over such a small thing.
TIL DEATH DO US PART
Recently, I have had some Mormon missionaries visit my house. I stood with them, talked and actually gave them my number and what not --though i had no intention to convert, I just thought they were nice and even though I am of a different religion, I believe what they are doing is good (don't be afraid to share your faith and take criticism. The only problem is now they wont leave me alone no matter how much I say I am happy with St.Paul. Anyway, that's a different topic.
The first day that they came to my house they said something that struck me that I never really thought about, and that is the saying "Til death do us part" at a Catholic (as well as other religions under Christianity) wedding. Elder McCaleb said the following: "I don't know much about St.Paul but it is a church under some form of Christianity right? (Catholic) Well I'm sure you are familiar with a traditional Christian or Catholic wedding? (yes) Then you have heard the words 'Til death do us part', correct? (yes) Well I for one do not want death to separate me from my wife. I want to be with her forever, wouldn't you want to be with your family and your husband forever? (yes) I don't want death to be the end of that relationship.." then he continued to say that Mormons are unique to the fact that when they die they aren't separated from their family..blah blah blah..
At the time I was like wow he's right, I don't want to be separated from my Husband and kids.. then it came to me ( a second after that thought), well that's not what they mean by that saying anyway! So, after they left I sat down and thought about that saying for a while debating with myself responses that I could have said and should have said to the Mormons, to not only stick up for my own beliefs and religion but also to further his knowledge (because I don't believe he knows much of other religions plus he was close to my age. So here is my explanation.
Marriage is the union of two souls, two people who want to spend their lives growing old together, two best friends who chose one another forever. In the traditional ceremony of marriage, the couple is asked, when stating their love to say the phrase (or some variation) "I take you _____, to be my lawfully wedded ______, to have and to hold, in richer or for poor, in sickness and in health, til death do us part" , This is supposed to be an expression --in words-- that they will stay faithful, work through the obstacles with each other and want to be with each other forever. As I stated before, Marriage is the union of two souls. Death is only for the physical. Death is what happens to the body. But if you believe in any kind of afterlife you already know this, souls live on, our bodies are left behind and we are formed anew in heaven--"to be absent from the body (is to be) at home with the Lord" (2 Cor. 5:8). There is nothing (that I've read) in the bible that states "you will not see or be with your family in heaven", nor do I believe that God will for some reason not "allow" us to be near our loved ones. Heaven is nothing like how it is on earth, so therefore even if you are with your family, the love is different. When you are in heaven your love for God should overwhelm all that you feel for another human being... I kinda lost my train of thought because a friend came over while I was reminicing about this topic.. but as you can see from what I have stated, that when we say "til death do us part" we do not mean that we only want to be with each other 'til we die, we mean that since we are making this pledge while we are living on earth we will stay together until we die. Oh one more statement I'd like to add, people usually do not die at the same time, so the statement also makes sense there, because you have to part if your partner dies before you, but of course you will still be with them forever.. It doesn't mean that you should convert just because of one little line that is said in a wedding ceremony (and for the most part many people make up what they say now).
Anyway, I'm probably going to sound a bit like a broken record here because I'm sure I've blogged something similar to this before but...I'm going to blog it again gosh dang-it!
In this blog:
1. Arguing
2. Why do people get upset so easily?
3. "Til death do us part" in explanation to the Mormons that came to my house.
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ARGUING
On a "short" note, my brother and his girlfriend woke me up with their arguing this morning. The whole fight was over name calling and it was so petty but my brother made an excellent point. He apparently said something that made her mad and she called him a dick and he apologized but she didn't and it escalated. My brother made this point (to understand it better you'd need to know all that happened but i don't want to disperse his whole argument)... He has the horrible tendency to cuss a lot, and he said "if you ask anyone who knows me if i have a 'potty mouth' they will say yes. But if I asked anyone if you had a 'potty mouth' then not a single person would say yes, in fact they'd all find it shocking, so when you called me a name, it really hurt. (she still wasn't getting it) You know why? Because you calling someone a bad name is like Jesus calling someone a Mother F____er". I thought that was like funny, but it's completely true.. and after that the argument basically was over. Although, this does not excuse any name calling on my brother's behalf--whether he curses a lot or not.
My friend Jeremy always has little debates with me but they are always over something really ridiculous and for the most part its just a joking argument and is rather fun. Over the weekend, Sunday to be precise, He told me he was thinking about the Chaos Theory. In other words, the Butterfly Effect (a butterfly in Brazil flaps it's wings and causes a tornado in Texas). He just randomly brought it up and asked if I believed in it, and I said I didn't because I don't think that a butterfly simply flapping it's wings would create such a difference in air pressure that it could cause a tornado. That set him off. We began arguing over a 4 hour span. I could really give a hoot. I had no inclination to talk about let alone argue about the Chaos Theory. He began challenging me on something I knew little about, and was not prepared to argue for. Me stating that I am unsure on my stance on the theory does not imply that I do not agree with aspects of the theory, I understand that nature has many chaotic events. However, I have never researched the mathematical basis behind this theory, therefore I would rather inform myself before ever caring to argue. For all I know, I may actually agree with the theory--unfortunately, I don't know enough on the topic. He kept giving examples that were in little relevance to the theory as well. For example he said "I quit my last job because my paycheck had been messed up, later I found out that the check number was wrong..what are the chances of that...and now I work here, had that not happened I would've never been here" I told him, well obviously had that not happened you wouldn't be here, life is a bunch of untold stories, it's obvious logic that if you do one thing then something will happen and if you were to do something different instead then there would potentially be a different outcome. I believe that his example was only partial to the theory and i told him that and he got mad and would not accept the fact that I do not completely agree with a theory. In my opinion, i think that it's okay to debate but if one person does not have any motivation or support for the argument then why should you force your ideals on them? I asked him to stop THREE times because i was getting upset (he wouldn't consider my opinion or lack there of....plus arguing makes me want to cry). He didn't stop until I refused to respond.
Can you tell me if you think he went to far? In argument, he referred to me as a B word and stated all I do is shoot him down... because I was not willing to argue about something I know little about. I asked him that day the following day why he wouldn't stop and he said because he likes questioning the theory and his life. He was not questioning and I told him that, he was trying to persuade me. His response was "Don't you want to know why you are here" to which "I already know why I'm here.." "That's bull crap."
Nice huh? FUN DAY AT WORK.
Why Do People Get Upset So Easily?
Picture this:
A woman with a cart, filled with snacks & a birthday cake (as well as other stuff). She walks to my register and begins to unload her stuff, rather happily.
Me: Hello!
Woman: Hi :D
Me: How are you? Do you Have a Remke Card?
Woman: Not with me but you can look it up. Oh and do you sell Vodka here?
Me: No, but they do across the street. (woman tells me her info and I look up her card)
*end of order*
Me: your total is 94.78
Woman: I'm going to write this for $10 over.
Me: Um... Ma'am do you have your Remke card visibly with you, otherwise you can't.
Woman: Even with ID?
Me: No it's our policy. It's just for the customer's protection.
Woman: Well that's absolute bull Sh*t. --talks to manager--comes back-- you might as well delete me from your system, I'll never be back. If it wasn't my daughter's birthday then I'd just leave all of this here and you could put it all back. --talks to manager and writes name and number on paper--
Me: Have a good night.
Woman: *storms off*
Seriously? Why get so mad? There's an ATM outside... she also was going to go buy vodka, so she'd have the opportunity to get money back there if they allow it. It's not my fault. And guess what? She came through my line again today, haha.
Another incident --worse-- happen to my friend while she was working. The up coming week had a sale for coke 12pks 3 for 9 dollars, but this week there was no sale on coke at all. A man comes through her line with three coke 12pks. She rings him up an says "Your total is $15.10" The man gets slightly annoyed an says "Aren't those supposed to be nine dollars?? She replies "no they aren't on sale....." Then the man becomes enraged and slams the coke down and gets in the cashier's face and says "THIS IS RIDICULOUS! IT'S F***ING STUPID! YOU CAN TAKE YOUR F***ING COKE AND SHOVE IT UP YOUR F***ING @$! SCREW YOU!" then proceeds to march out of store.
It's not our fault that the coke wasn't on sale and that he read the wrong ad...
I think it's pathetic to get so annoyed over such a small thing.
TIL DEATH DO US PART
Recently, I have had some Mormon missionaries visit my house. I stood with them, talked and actually gave them my number and what not --though i had no intention to convert, I just thought they were nice and even though I am of a different religion, I believe what they are doing is good (don't be afraid to share your faith and take criticism. The only problem is now they wont leave me alone no matter how much I say I am happy with St.Paul. Anyway, that's a different topic.
The first day that they came to my house they said something that struck me that I never really thought about, and that is the saying "Til death do us part" at a Catholic (as well as other religions under Christianity) wedding. Elder McCaleb said the following: "I don't know much about St.Paul but it is a church under some form of Christianity right? (Catholic) Well I'm sure you are familiar with a traditional Christian or Catholic wedding? (yes) Then you have heard the words 'Til death do us part', correct? (yes) Well I for one do not want death to separate me from my wife. I want to be with her forever, wouldn't you want to be with your family and your husband forever? (yes) I don't want death to be the end of that relationship.." then he continued to say that Mormons are unique to the fact that when they die they aren't separated from their family..blah blah blah..
At the time I was like wow he's right, I don't want to be separated from my Husband and kids.. then it came to me ( a second after that thought), well that's not what they mean by that saying anyway! So, after they left I sat down and thought about that saying for a while debating with myself responses that I could have said and should have said to the Mormons, to not only stick up for my own beliefs and religion but also to further his knowledge (because I don't believe he knows much of other religions plus he was close to my age. So here is my explanation.
Marriage is the union of two souls, two people who want to spend their lives growing old together, two best friends who chose one another forever. In the traditional ceremony of marriage, the couple is asked, when stating their love to say the phrase (or some variation) "I take you _____, to be my lawfully wedded ______, to have and to hold, in richer or for poor, in sickness and in health, til death do us part" , This is supposed to be an expression --in words-- that they will stay faithful, work through the obstacles with each other and want to be with each other forever. As I stated before, Marriage is the union of two souls. Death is only for the physical. Death is what happens to the body. But if you believe in any kind of afterlife you already know this, souls live on, our bodies are left behind and we are formed anew in heaven--"to be absent from the body (is to be) at home with the Lord" (2 Cor. 5:8). There is nothing (that I've read) in the bible that states "you will not see or be with your family in heaven", nor do I believe that God will for some reason not "allow" us to be near our loved ones. Heaven is nothing like how it is on earth, so therefore even if you are with your family, the love is different. When you are in heaven your love for God should overwhelm all that you feel for another human being... I kinda lost my train of thought because a friend came over while I was reminicing about this topic.. but as you can see from what I have stated, that when we say "til death do us part" we do not mean that we only want to be with each other 'til we die, we mean that since we are making this pledge while we are living on earth we will stay together until we die. Oh one more statement I'd like to add, people usually do not die at the same time, so the statement also makes sense there, because you have to part if your partner dies before you, but of course you will still be with them forever.. It doesn't mean that you should convert just because of one little line that is said in a wedding ceremony (and for the most part many people make up what they say now).
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