First blog of the new year...(longest blog EVER)

I have a song attached to this blog :D just cuz i like it and its one of the very few acoustic songs that Breaking Benjamin has.

Anyway, I'm probably going to sound a bit like a broken record here because I'm sure I've blogged something similar to this before but...I'm going to blog it again gosh dang-it!

In this blog:
1. Arguing
2. Why do people get upset so easily?
3. "Til death do us part" in explanation to the Mormons that came to my house.
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ARGUING
On a "short" note, my brother and his girlfriend woke me up with their arguing this morning. The whole fight was over name calling and it was so petty but my brother made an excellent point. He apparently said something that made her mad and she called him a dick and he apologized but she didn't and it escalated. My brother made this point (to understand it better you'd need to know all that happened but i don't want to disperse his whole argument)... He has the horrible tendency to cuss a lot, and he said "if you ask anyone who knows me if i have a 'potty mouth' they will say yes. But if I asked anyone if you had a 'potty mouth' then not a single person would say yes, in fact they'd all find it shocking, so when you called me a name, it really hurt. (she still wasn't getting it) You know why? Because you calling someone a bad name is like Jesus calling someone a Mother F____er". I thought that was like funny, but it's completely true.. and after that the argument basically was over. Although, this does not excuse any name calling on my brother's behalf--whether he curses a lot or not.

My friend Jeremy always has little debates with me but they are always over something really ridiculous and for the most part its just a joking argument and is rather fun. Over the weekend, Sunday to be precise, He told me he was thinking about the Chaos Theory. In other words, the Butterfly Effect (a butterfly in Brazil flaps it's wings and causes a tornado in Texas). He just randomly brought it up and asked if I believed in it, and I said I didn't because I don't think that a butterfly simply flapping it's wings would create such a difference in air pressure that it could cause a tornado. That set him off. We began arguing over a 4 hour span. I could really give a hoot. I had no inclination to talk about let alone argue about the Chaos Theory. He began challenging me on something I knew little about, and was not prepared to argue for. Me stating that I am unsure on my stance on the theory does not imply that I do not agree with aspects of the theory, I understand that nature has many chaotic events. However, I have never researched the mathematical basis behind this theory, therefore I would rather inform myself before ever caring to argue. For all I know, I may actually agree with the theory--unfortunately, I don't know enough on the topic. He kept giving examples that were in little relevance to the theory as well. For example he said "I quit my last job because my paycheck had been messed up, later I found out that the check number was wrong..what are the chances of that...and now I work here, had that not happened I would've never been here" I told him, well obviously had that not happened you wouldn't be here, life is a bunch of untold stories, it's obvious logic that if you do one thing then something will happen and if you were to do something different instead then there would potentially be a different outcome.  I believe that his example was only partial to the theory and i told him that and he got mad and would not accept the fact that I do not completely agree with a theory. In my opinion, i think that it's okay to debate but if one person does not have any motivation or support for the argument then why should you force your ideals on them? I asked him to stop THREE times because i was getting upset (he wouldn't consider my opinion or lack there of....plus arguing makes me want to cry). He didn't stop until I refused to respond.

Can you tell me if you think he went to far? In argument, he referred to me as a B word and stated all I do is shoot him down... because I was not willing to argue about something I know little about. I asked him that day the following day why he wouldn't stop and he said because he likes questioning the theory and his life. He was not questioning and I told him that, he was trying to persuade me. His response was "Don't you want to know why you are here" to which "I already know why I'm here.." "That's bull crap."

Nice huh? FUN DAY AT WORK.


Why Do People Get Upset So Easily?
Picture this:
A woman with a cart, filled with snacks & a birthday cake (as well as other stuff). She walks to my register and begins to unload her stuff, rather happily.
Me: Hello!
Woman: Hi :D
Me: How are you? Do you Have a Remke Card?
Woman: Not with me but you can look it up. Oh and do you sell Vodka here?
Me: No, but they do across the street. (woman tells me her info and I look up her card)
*end of order*
Me: your total is 94.78
Woman: I'm going to write this for $10 over.
Me: Um... Ma'am do you have your Remke card visibly with you, otherwise you can't.
Woman: Even with ID?
Me: No it's our policy. It's just for the customer's protection.
Woman: Well that's absolute bull Sh*t. --talks to manager--comes back-- you might as well delete me from your system, I'll never be back. If it wasn't my daughter's birthday then I'd just leave all of this here and you could put it all back. --talks to manager and writes name and number on paper--
Me: Have a good night.
Woman: *storms off*

Seriously? Why get so mad? There's an ATM outside... she also was going to go buy vodka, so she'd have the opportunity to get money back there if they allow it. It's not my fault. And guess what? She came through my line again today, haha.

Another incident --worse-- happen to my friend while she was working. The up coming week had a sale for coke 12pks 3 for 9 dollars, but this week there was no sale on coke at all. A man comes through her line with three coke 12pks. She rings him up an says "Your total is $15.10" The man gets slightly annoyed an says "Aren't those supposed to be nine dollars?? She replies "no they aren't on sale....." Then the man becomes enraged and slams the coke down and gets in the cashier's face and says "THIS IS RIDICULOUS! IT'S F***ING STUPID! YOU CAN TAKE YOUR F***ING COKE AND SHOVE IT UP YOUR F***ING @$! SCREW YOU!" then proceeds to march out of store.
It's not our fault that the coke wasn't on sale and that he read the wrong ad...
I think it's pathetic to get so annoyed over such a small thing.


TIL DEATH DO US PART
Recently, I have had some Mormon missionaries visit my house. I stood with them, talked and actually gave them my number and what not --though i had no intention to convert, I just thought they were nice and even though I am of a different religion, I believe what they are doing is good (don't be afraid to share your faith and take criticism. The only problem is now they wont leave me alone no matter how much I say I am happy with St.Paul. Anyway, that's a different topic.

 The first day that they came to my house they said something that struck me that I never really thought about, and that is the saying "Til death do us part" at a Catholic (as well as other religions under Christianity) wedding. Elder McCaleb said the following: "I don't know much about St.Paul but it is a church under some form of Christianity right? (Catholic) Well I'm sure you are familiar with a traditional Christian or Catholic wedding? (yes) Then you have heard the words 'Til death do us part', correct? (yes) Well I for one do not want death to separate me from my wife. I want to be with her forever, wouldn't you want to be with your family and your husband forever? (yes) I don't want death to be the end of that relationship.." then he continued to say that Mormons are unique to the fact that when they die they aren't separated from their family..blah blah blah..

At the time I was like wow he's right, I don't want to be separated from my Husband and kids.. then it came to me ( a second after that thought), well that's not what they mean by that saying anyway! So, after they left I sat down and thought about that saying for a while debating with myself responses that I could have said and should have said to the Mormons, to not only stick up for my own beliefs and religion but also to further his knowledge (because I don't believe he knows much of other religions plus he was close to my age. So here is my explanation.

Marriage is the union of two souls, two people who want to spend their lives growing old together, two best friends who chose one another forever. In the traditional ceremony of marriage, the couple is asked, when stating their love to say the phrase (or some variation) "I take you _____, to be my lawfully wedded ______, to have and to hold, in richer or for poor, in sickness and in health, til death do us part" , This is supposed to be an expression --in words-- that they will stay faithful, work through the obstacles with each other and want to be with each other forever. As I stated before, Marriage is the union of two souls. Death is only for the physical. Death is what happens to the body. But if you believe in any kind of afterlife you already know this, souls live on, our bodies are left behind and we are formed anew in heaven--"to be absent from the body (is to be) at home with the Lord" (2 Cor. 5:8). There is nothing (that I've read) in the bible that states "you will not see or be with your family in heaven", nor do I believe that God will for some reason not "allow" us to be near our loved ones. Heaven is nothing like how it is on earth, so therefore even if you are with your family, the love is different. When you are in heaven your love for God should overwhelm all that you feel for another human being... I kinda lost my train of thought because a friend came over while I was reminicing about this topic.. but as you can see from what I have stated, that when we say "til death do us part" we do not mean that we only want to be with each other 'til we die, we mean that since we are making this pledge while we are living on earth we will stay together until we die. Oh one more statement I'd like to add, people usually do not die at the same time, so the statement also makes sense there, because you have to part if your partner dies before you, but of course you will still be with them forever.. It doesn't mean that you should convert just because of one little line that is said in a wedding ceremony (and for the most part many people make up what they say now).